Comments on: Ok, this is totally HORRIBLE of me… but! http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/ Just another WordPress weblog Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:09:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: smalltownRN http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3806 smalltownRN Tue, 08 Jan 2008 12:47:29 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3806 oops I meant to say compelled....and oops my grammer isn't the greatest in this post...that's what I get for typing this at 0445 in the morning...but I think you get the idea of what I was trying to say.... oops I meant to say compelled….and oops my grammer isn’t the greatest in this post…that’s what I get for typing this at 0445 in the morning…but I think you get the idea of what I was trying to say….

]]> By: smalltownRN http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3804 smalltownRN Tue, 08 Jan 2008 12:42:59 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3804 I know it is after Christmas that I write this, but I feel impelled to say something. Having for many years participated in hampers we made at work for families at Christmas I am disgusted that the organizers of your hamper would have let something like that even go out. Where I used to work...omgosh the food and the toys and food and toys just kept on coming...one year when I helped deliver the stuff to the family my car was stuffed to the brim with goodies for the families...and then we would give them a food voucher to Safeway so they could go get fresh produce etc. for Christmas day. This however, we got organzied rather late, the folks at work said they wanted to do something...so the social worker where I worked gave us a family single mom with 2 small children...anyhow, I had originally said I would take on the task of organizing the hamper....unfortunately I did not anticipate getting hurt before Christmas that therefore wasn't at work much to make sure things were coming along...long and short of it...I felt obligated to get things rolling...I decorated some boxes...I went and bought a toy specific for each childs age and a gift for the mom....wrapped and decorated them as well...I then went and bought all kinds of little food goodies...now hoping others would pick up on this....I was disappointed with my group....when I heard what was in the hampers I was getting upset....one of the things the mom asked for was colourful towels...I didn't know this until after I had already got my stuff for the hamper...anyhow..I went and bought for wonderfully bright bath towels...the day came to deliver the gift...the gang had come together but still not as I had hoped...there was cash that we went and go a food voucher and two other people had donated food vouchers...it did end up being more than enough....but I think had I not really got things rolling I don't think they would have participated the way they did...and the funny thing is...they all kept asking when are we doing the Christmas hamper.....I remeber one colleague telling me she was going to put one of her daughters used dolls in the hamper...I was agast to say the least...especially seeing as this person the past year had won almost .5 million on the lotto....some people.... I know it is after Christmas that I write this, but I feel impelled to say something. Having for many years participated in hampers we made at work for families at Christmas I am disgusted that the organizers of your hamper would have let something like that even go out. Where I used to work…omgosh the food and the toys and food and toys just kept on coming…one year when I helped deliver the stuff to the family my car was stuffed to the brim with goodies for the families…and then we would give them a food voucher to Safeway so they could go get fresh produce etc. for Christmas day.

This however, we got organzied rather late, the folks at work said they wanted to do something…so the social worker where I worked gave us a family single mom with 2 small children…anyhow, I had originally said I would take on the task of organizing the hamper….unfortunately I did not anticipate getting hurt before Christmas that therefore wasn’t at work much to make sure things were coming along…long and short of it…I felt obligated to get things rolling…I decorated some boxes…I went and bought a toy specific for each childs age and a gift for the mom….wrapped and decorated them as well…I then went and bought all kinds of little food goodies…now hoping others would pick up on this….I was disappointed with my group….when I heard what was in the hampers I was getting upset….one of the things the mom asked for was colourful towels…I didn’t know this until after I had already got my stuff for the hamper…anyhow..I went and bought for wonderfully bright bath towels…the day came to deliver the gift…the gang had come together but still not as I had hoped…there was cash that we went and go a food voucher and two other people had donated food vouchers…it did end up being more than enough….but I think had I not really got things rolling I don’t think they would have participated the way they did…and the funny thing is…they all kept asking when are we doing the Christmas hamper…..I remeber one colleague telling me she was going to put one of her daughters used dolls in the hamper…I was agast to say the least…especially seeing as this person the past year had won almost .5 million on the lotto….some people….

]]> By: Claudia http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3737 Claudia Wed, 02 Jan 2008 07:03:53 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3737 We had a fine Christmas. I took care of it myself (with a little payday loan help from money mart-blush). Thanks all for your kind words! We had a fine Christmas. I took care of it myself (with a little payday loan help from money mart-blush).

Thanks all for your kind words!

]]> By: Scattered Mom http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3718 Scattered Mom Sun, 30 Dec 2007 19:39:55 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3718 In all honesty, it's not giving and being generous if the food is expired and not even useable. That's just wrong and more insulting then helping, if you ask me. I'm so sorry that your hamper was not any good, Claudia. In my experience it's hard to get people to contribute anything. :( Sometimes it's better to go with fundraising and then have an organized group of people purchase the needed items so there's no 'mysteries'. I hope that despite the disappointment, you still had a happy Christmas! In all honesty, it’s not giving and being generous if the food is expired and not even useable.

That’s just wrong and more insulting then helping, if you ask me.

I’m so sorry that your hamper was not any good, Claudia. In my experience it’s hard to get people to contribute anything. :( Sometimes it’s better to go with fundraising and then have an organized group of people purchase the needed items so there’s no ‘mysteries’.

I hope that despite the disappointment, you still had a happy Christmas!

]]> By: jmb http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3621 jmb Thu, 20 Dec 2007 04:20:13 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3621 Claudia, I do hope there was something useful there, but you have every right to grumble. That was not nice of those people to put into hampers stuff that they would not use themselves. This exercise is supposed to be teaching children (private school at that so probably not on a budget)to think of others at Christmas, not get rid of our junk which is the lesson being showed here. Yes the thought was good, the putting it into practice abysmal. I hope you have a happy Christmas anyway. Claudia, I do hope there was something useful there, but you have every right to grumble. That was not nice of those people to put into hampers stuff that they would not use themselves. This exercise is supposed to be teaching children (private school at that so probably not on a budget)to think of others at Christmas, not get rid of our junk which is the lesson being showed here.
Yes the thought was good, the putting it into practice abysmal.
I hope you have a happy Christmas anyway.

]]> By: crunchycarpets http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3610 crunchycarpets Wed, 19 Dec 2007 02:23:09 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3610 Oh man! Sheesh yeah, when I did a hamper we took our time to put it together. Another year we did christmas socks for toys and we really put effort into buying half decent stuff. Pity it wasn't caviar and things like that! Oh and Michelle...sorry...I haven't added your stuff yet....life has sucked..brain gone....will get there. Oh man!
Sheesh yeah, when I did a hamper we took our time to put it together.

Another year we did christmas socks for toys and we really put effort into buying half decent stuff.

Pity it wasn’t caviar and things like that!

Oh and Michelle…sorry…I haven’t added your stuff yet….life has sucked..brain gone….will get there.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3609 Michelle Tue, 18 Dec 2007 21:53:38 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3609 Argh. That upsets me. I totally agree, if you would not feed/play with/love it with your own children - just chuck it. When my oldest dd was 2 we received a hamper, and I felt blessed. She still has the doll that was thoughtfully included. Sometimes, it is NOT the thought that counts. Merry Christmas to you and your family from a grateful Island ladybug. Argh. That upsets me. I totally agree, if you would not feed/play with/love it with your own children - just chuck it.

When my oldest dd was 2 we received a hamper, and I felt blessed. She still has the doll that was thoughtfully included.

Sometimes, it is NOT the thought that counts.

Merry Christmas to you and your family from a grateful Island ladybug.

]]> By: Suki http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3606 Suki Tue, 18 Dec 2007 15:59:57 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3606 Umm... don't know how the last comment came out. But what I wanted to say is, when I live in a country as poor as this I feel way more guilty about throwing something down the dustbin than donating it - IF it's usable. I do understand what you're talking about. I absolutely hate it when people give me, the "poor litle motherless girl" stuff they'd probably never wear themselves. The mystery is that they spend money on it, but completely lack taste! Umm… don’t know how the last comment came out.
But what I wanted to say is, when I live in a country as poor as this I feel way more guilty about throwing something down the dustbin than donating it - IF it’s usable.

I do understand what you’re talking about. I absolutely hate it when people give me, the “poor litle motherless girl” stuff they’d probably never wear themselves. The mystery is that they spend money on it, but completely lack taste!

]]> By: B http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3603 B Tue, 18 Dec 2007 08:09:21 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3603 Claudia, that to me does not say "heart in the right place". That to me is so typical of most people's idea of charity, they pawn off their rejects. Like you said if they don't want it why would someone else? It truly is a sad sad statement. On that note, if there is anything I can do to help, seriously just ask. I would gladly bring you a decent basket. B @ The Love Blog Claudia, that to me does not say “heart in the right place”. That to me is so typical of most people’s idea of charity, they pawn off their rejects. Like you said if they don’t want it why would someone else? It truly is a sad sad statement.

On that note, if there is anything I can do to help, seriously just ask. I would gladly bring you a decent basket.

B @ The Love Blog

]]> By: Brad http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3601 Brad Tue, 18 Dec 2007 04:42:22 +0000 http://www.wetcoastwomen.com/2007/ok-this-is-totally-horrible-of-me-but/#comment-3601 It's true, what kind of generosity is it to give away things you don't want anyways? It could be worse, but still... -Brad www.clashofculture.com It’s true, what kind of generosity is it to give away things you don’t want anyways?

It could be worse, but still…

-Brad
http://www.clashofculture.com

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